So you meet an amazing woman, you go on a great date, and you hope that things lead to the bedroom. But making that transition from a fun date to a passionate lover can be tricky.
Don’t worry, I’m here to give you the inside scoop on how to get laid with the women you want. Consider this your expert guide to sealing the deal in 2024.
Now, before we dive in, it’s important to note that the goal here is mutual pleasure – you want her to want you just as much as you want her. With that said, here’s my step-by-step guide to navigating from meet-cute to between the sheets.
Create an Emotional Bond
The foundation of any sexual encounter should be an emotional connection. Without it, you risk coming across as that creepy guy just looking to “hit it and quit it.”
So how do you form that emotional bond that paves the way to the bedroom? Here are some tips:
Focus on fun and laughter. Tell funny stories and jokes. Poke playful fun at her in a charming, not mean, way. Laughter and smiles are universal signs that she’s enjoying your company.
Find common interests. Maybe you both love hiking, have dogs, or geek out on Star Wars. Connections like these build rapport quickly.
Ask engaging questions. Go beyond small talk and ask about her passions, dreams, and quirky hypotheticals (e.g. “If you won the lottery tomorrow, what’s the first thing you’d do?”). This shows you want to really get to know her.
Flirt and tease. Send flirty compliments about her eyes, smile, or wit. Gently tease her tastes in music or fashion. Playful back-and-forth like this creates sparks.
Share passions. Opening up about things that light you up invites her to do the same. Being vulnerable fosters emotional intimacy.
The more you can make her smile, share, laugh, and feel heard, the more that emotional bond strengthens, paving the way for physical intimacy.
Build Comfort and Trust
Once you’ve established some emotional chemistry, the next step is making her feel comfortable and safe with you.
Think of comfort as the foundation of any house – without it, the rest can’t stand. Similarly, without comfort between you, any attempts to get sexual will likely fall flat or worse, spark a bad reaction.
Here are some tips for building comfort:
Find common ground. Maybe you both have siblings, love dogs or grew up in the same town. Shared experiences build a sense of “we’re alike.”
Ask friendly questions. Nothing intrusive or overly personal yet, just light things like her favorite movies, where she likes to hang out, if she’s a morning or night person. This sends the message you care about her as a person.
Limit physical contact. At this stage, limit touch to polite gestures like briefly touching her arm or shoulder. Let her warm up to you. Overeager hands will backfire.
Watch your body language. Face her, make comfortable eye contact, smile, and nod. Keep your posture open. Your body language can say “I’m listening and enjoying our chat” better than words.
Mirror her. If she folds her arms, you fold yours. If she leans in, you lean in too. Subtly mirroring her body language builds rapport.
With enough comfort and trust established, she’ll feel at ease with things getting more intimate. You want her thinking “I feel so comfortable with him, taking things further just feels right.”
Get Physically Closer
Now that you have that emotional bond and comfort, it’s time to break the physical touch barrier further. Note that this should be gradual and reciprocal – pay close attention to her reactions.
Here are some tips for increasing intimacy through touch:
Start small. Let your leg or arm brush against hers. See if she moves away or leans into it. Touch her arm when you say something funny or serious. Gauge her reaction.
Offer your hand. If you’re walking beside her, offer your hand. If she takes it and interlaces her fingers, that’s a great sign. If she declines, no problem, pull back.
Touch her hair or face. If she has something in her hair or on her face, gently brush it away. If she welcomes this contact, continue to find excuses to touch her face, hair, or neck.
Put your arm around her. Especially if you’re sitting side by side, try putting your arm around her. If she leans into you, bingo. If not, respect her space.
Get closer. Try little things like having your knee touch hers or putting your face close to hers as if you’re going to kiss her (but don’t just yet). See if she’s comfortable with you being in her intimate zone.
The key to all of these touches is to make them feel natural, not forced. Also, start light and give her time to reciprocate interest before progressing.
Turn Up the Heat
At this point, you should have built enough comfort, trust, and intimacy that taking things to the next level feels like an exciting but natural progression.
Now it’s time to crank up the heat and sexual tension. Here are some go-to moves:
Whisper in her ear. When you’re close, whisper playful, tickly things in her ear. Things like “You look so beautiful I can hardly stand it” or “Do you know how bad I want to kiss you right now?” breathe life into fantasies.
Touch her erogenous zones. Run your fingers gently along her neck, shoulders, or inner arm. Touch the nape of her neck lightly. Caressing erogenous zones makes her body come alive for you.
Break the touch barrier. Carefully place your hand on her upper thigh or around her hip. If she’s into it, she’ll move closer. If not, stay above the belt.
Play with her hair. Brush her hair behind her shoulder. Lightly run your fingers through her hair. Playing with her hair says “I find you sexy.”
Maintain eye contact. When you’re close, let your eyes linger on her lips then slowly make eye contact. This nonverbal flirting builds anticipation.
Whisper sexy compliments. Things like “Your lips look so kissable” or “Being this close to you drives me wild” turn up the sexual voltage between you.
Make Your Move
You’ve built emotional intimacy, comfort, and sexual tension. Now it’s finally time to make your move and initiate getting physical.
Focus on consent. Ideally, she’ll be giving clear verbal and nonverbal signs she wants to get intimate. If signals are mixed, ask something like “I’d really love to kiss you. Would you like that too?” Get clear consent before progressing.
Start slow. Gently brush your lips against hers. Hold the kiss but keep it graceful. Take her bottom lip gently between yours. A slow sensual build-up keeps anticipation high.
Use your hands. Lightly hold or caress her face as you kiss. Run your hands slowly up and down her arms. Let your hands wander, but don’t rush to breasts or nether regions.
Intensify slowly. As passion increases, kiss deeper. Part her lips with yours. Wrap your arms tightly around her. The key is slowly elevating intensity to match the heat.
Whisper between kisses. In your most sultry voice, tell her how sexy she is or how much you want her between passionate kisses. This cranks up the fire big time.
Lead to the bedroom. Once kisses reach full flame, take her hand and lead her to the bedroom. Lay her down gently, smile, and continue kissing with the intent to please. She’ll take it from there!
Make Her Feel Like Seducing You
The key to getting laid consistently is making women feel like they’re seducing you, rather than you seducing them. How do you accomplish this?
- Move smoothly between stages – Rushing or awkward transitions kill the mood. Be patient.
- Read her signals – Is she reciprocating touches or leaning in? Or does she seem hesitant? Adjust accordingly.
- Don’t be needy – Over-complimenting or seeking validation is a turn-off. Stay self-assured.
- Let her initiate sometimes – If she touches your arm or invites you back to her place, let her make moves too.
- Build anticipation – Lean in like you’ll kiss her but pause and smile. Teasing drives up her excitement.
- Make her convince you – Say something like “I don’t kiss on the first date…” Make her persuade you to break your “rule.”
Some Final Thoughts
If you take things step-by-step from emotional connection to full-on fireworks, you’re much more likely to have the passionate, consenting experience you both want.
The key things to remember are:
- Go slow
- Pay attention to her signals
- Build trust and comfort first
- Whisper sexy sentiments
- Use consent as the hottest turn-on
Master these make-out-to-bedroom moves, and you’ll be well on your way to memorably steamy nights together. Here’s to passion, romance, and mutual pleasure in 2024!
