Do you know how much power your man has over you? Whether you realize it or not, the person you love can shape your mood, your outlook, and your choices.
Love is a two-way street, and you can’t help but be influenced by the one you share it with. But is this influence positive or negative?
Does your man inspire you to be your best self, or does he drag you down with his negativity?
This article will help you answer these questions and discover how the man in your life influences you – for better or worse.
The Heavy Burden of an Unhappy Relationship
Many women stay in miserable relationships far longer than they should. They tolerate partners who degrade them, cheat on them, or even become abusive. Why? Often because the woman feels trapped or believes she can “fix” the man and make him change.
But the harsh reality is, you cannot force someone to alter their character or values. If your partner disrespects you or makes you feel small, that is unlikely to change no matter how hard you try or how long you wait it out. All you’re doing is sentencing yourself to a life of unhappiness.
Metaphorically, it’s as if you have a stone tied around your neck, weighing you down. You struggle to stay afloat while your partner seems unaffected. Every day is a battle just to get through, with no joy or lightness to be found.
Does this sound familiar? If so, it’s time to reconsider if you are getting anything positive out of the relationship.
Warning Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Dynamic
How do you know if your partner is negatively influencing you versus enhancing your life? Here are some key signs:
- You feel constantly on edge around them, like you can’t relax.
- Small issues frequently blow up into major arguments.
- They criticize you or put you down in front of others.
- When you try to discuss problems, they shut you down.
- They exhibit controlling behaviors about who you see or talk to.
- Cheating, emotional abuse, or physical violence occurs.
- You find yourself making excuses for their bad behavior.
- You’re embarrassed to tell friends/family how they treat you.
- Your self-esteem and confidence have plummeted.
- You don’t enjoy activities you used to love.
- You feel depressed, anxious, or angry much of the time.
If several of these factors ring true in your relationship, your partner is likely having an overwhelmingly negative influence over your emotional state and quality of life.
But there is hope. You have the power to make a change.
Why Good Men Do Exist (You Just Have to Draw Them In)
When caught in a toxic relationship, it’s easy to become jaded. You may start to believe good men don’t exist. But that simply isn’t true. There are kind, caring partners out there who will cherish you. However, pessimism can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Think of it like this – if you cast your net out expecting to catch rotten fish, you likely will. But if you bait your line with the belief you’ll attract a prize catch, your odds increase dramatically.
You have control over what kind of man you invite into your life. But first, you must be willing to let go of partners proving themselves unworthy of you. Never accept being abused, cheated on, or made to feel small.
The moment a man reveals his true negative character, cut him loose. Don’t try to change him or make it work despite glaring red flags. Eliminate relationships where your core needs aren’t being met.
This frees you up for the right man to come along – one who will lift you up rather than drag you down. But how do you draw that man in?
Becoming the Type of Woman Who Inspires Devotion
To attract a deeply caring partner, you must first believe you deserve that. When you love yourself fully, you won’t settle for less than you’re worth.
Make a list of your ideal mate’s qualities – integrity, kindness, responsibility, sense of humor, etc. This clarifies exactly what you want so you recognize it when you see it.
Next, focus on developing those traits within yourself. Your vibe attracts your tribe. By embodying the characteristics you seek in a partner, you’ll act like a magnet drawing the right man in.
For example:
- If you want an honest man, be impeccably honest yourself.
- If you want a generous man, be generous with others.
- If you want a man who communicates openly, speak your truth tactfully but directly.
In essence, become the woman your ideal partner would be inspired to love, honor, and adore. Then from a place of high self-worth, vet men thoroughly and cut loose any who don’t meet your standards. Never compromise your core values or accept crumbs just to be coupled up.
Stay true to your needs, wants, and deal-breakers. Let go of outdated notions like “beggars can’t be choosers” or that you must tolerate bad behavior just to have a man.
You define your own limits. The right partner will not only respect but revere them.
Signs You’ve Found a Man Who Enhances Your Life
When you’ve attracted the sort of high-caliber man you deserve, you’ll feel the difference. Gone are the eggshells, anxiety, and suffocation. Instead, you’ll feel lighter, freer, more energized and alive.
Here are some signs you’ve found a great match:
- You feel like your best self around him.
- He inspires you to pursue your passions.
- You laugh often and smile more.
- He motivates you to achieve your goals.
- You don’t worry about his reaction to trivial things.
- He doesn’t demand constant contact or tracking of your whereabouts.
- You’re comfortable being vulnerable and speaking your mind.
- He lifts you higher rather than pulling you down.
- You’re eager to introduce him to friends and family.
- He makes you want to be a better person.
- You feel lucky to be with him.
This is the sort of uplifting, mutually fulfilling relationship you deserve. Once you cut loose unhealthy attachments, you open the door to amazing possibilities you can’t yet imagine.
Don’t Just Survive – Thrive
At the end of the day, you teach others how to treat you. The quality of the partner you attract depends on the way you carry yourself and what you project. Demanding the very best from others starts with demanding the very best from yourself.
You hold immense value, so never settle for a man who doesn’t see that. Let go of those who weigh you down or hold you back. Then stand tall with grace and self-respect to draw in the sort of partner you deserve.
The right man will not complete you – he will complement you. He’ll nurture your dreams and nourish your soul. Your differences will balance, not divide you. That’s the beautiful alchemy of a healthy relationship.
Don’t resign yourself to merely surviving. With standards set and your head held high, you can build an extraordinary life with an extraordinary man by your side. The journey begins from within.
