Here’s the harsh truth: Indifference is a death sentence for attraction. Women don’t want a bland, predictable guy. They crave excitement, challenge, and a man who isn’t afraid to stir up some emotions – both positive and negative.
Yes, you read that right. Even negative emotions can be better than nothing at all. At least jerks and bad boys make women feel something, whether it’s shock, frustration, or desire. (But let’s be clear, I’m not advocating being an asshole here.) 🙅♂️
Look, the reality is, that a woman will only choose one partner long-term. And it’s almost always going to be the guy she feels emotionally connected to, not the safe, mediocre option. 💔
You can’t just “nice guy” your way into a woman’s heart. You need to polarize and arouse her emotions.
So, let’s dive into nine ways to attract women and arouse their emotions.
1. Share a Difference of Opinion
Tired of being a yes-man? Good! Women don’t want a clone of themselves. They crave a man with his own opinions, values, and independence. So, don’t be afraid to respectfully disagree with her on things.
Share your perspective in a non-judgmental way. You’re not trying to attack her; you’re trying to have an open dialogue. This shows her you’re confident enough to be honest, not just desperate for approval. 💪
2. Ask Hard Questions That Require Vulnerability
Sick of shallow first date convos about favorite movies and music? Me too! It’s time to get real. Ask deep, personal, and thought-provoking questions that dig into her core values and opinions.
But don’t just interrogate her; come from a place of genuine curiosity. When she opens up and shares vulnerable parts of herself, she’s giving you a piece of her heart that no other guy has. And that’s when you start to feel a deeper human connection. 💖
3. Step Into Your Humor
Embrace your silly side! Let your goofy, weird, and outlandish humor shine through. It doesn’t have to perfectly match her style. The key is showing that you’re comfortable in your own skin and don’t care about being judged.
Watch great comedians to learn about delivery and punchlines. Or take an improv class – it’s an excellent way to step into your creativity in a judgment-free zone. 🎭
4. Push to Meet Up Sooner
Texts can’t build real connections, my friend. There’s no energy, no facial expressions, no real presence. So, stop letting plans get wishy-washy. Invite her to meet up within the first day or two of talking.
If she’s even remotely interested, she’ll appreciate your confidence in suggesting an actual time and place. And if she’s not, well, better to know sooner than later instead of wasting time, right? 🕰️
5. Set Strong Boundaries
Are you a doormat, letting women walk all over your time and self-respect? That’s not attractive, bro! When a woman cancels last minute or disrespects your time, don’t just roll over and say, “No problem.” 😒
Challenge her a bit. Say something like, “I understand stuff comes up, but my time is really important to me, and I’m looking to connect with people who feel the same way.” This shows you have a backbone and self-respect. And trust me, that will make her want to invest more in you. 💪
6. Don’t Cancel Your Existing Plans
Let’s say a woman wants to hang out, but you already have plans with friends or work. Don’t drop everything for her! That screams desperation. Instead, tell her you’re busy on that day, and suggest an alternate time.
This sparks curiosity because most men would clear their schedules in a heartbeat. She’ll think, “Whoa, this guy has his own life and priorities.” And that makes her excited to win your time and investment. 🤩
7. Bridge Into Personal Experiences and Emotions
Talking in facts alone won’t get a woman to feel anything. “I went to this school for X years, now I work at this company…” Snooze Fest! 😴
She wants to know the “why” behind those facts. What are your passions, regrets, challenges, and dreams? Share stories and emotions she can relate to. That’s what makes you an individual and what makes her feel connected to you. 💗
8. Flirt and Step Into Your Sexuality
Flirting is the act of showing desire in more than a platonic way. It’s compliments, intimate questions, physical contact, and going for that kiss. 💋
When you show your desire, it stirs up emotions. If she’s not interested, she might get turned off – and that’s okay! Better to know sooner. But if she’s into you, she’ll feel aroused because this cool guy she likes also desires her. Hot, right? 🔥
9. Say Something Embarrassing, and Own It
Perfection is boring. Flaws and vulnerabilities make us human and relatable. If you have an embarrassing moment in a story, be honest about it. If you’re nervous, own it. If you’ve struggled with something like mental health, share how you’re working through it.
You’re not wallowing in self-pity; you’re showing growth and embracing all of who you are. And that makes it so much easier for her to open up and share herself with you too. 🤝
Conclusion
There you have it, nine polarizing techniques to ignite passion and attraction. Any reaction – positive or negative – is better than none at all. So, start evoking real emotions, even if you fail at first. Because you can’t just “nice guy” your way into being the man of a woman’s dreams. 💯
